After Rebirth, the Celebrity Daughter is the Medical Expert!

Chapter 736 - 586: Second Update (2)

"Aaaarghhhhh!!!!" Xia Hui got even more irritable. "Why are you all like this? I was originally planning to have a good talk with you, let you go do some ideological work with Grandpa so I could go to my personal trainer for body shaping now."

"Sure." Ning Youguang agreed very readily. "The question is, can you take medicine?"

"..." Xia Hui, still in her breastfeeding period, fell silent.

Ning Youguang didn’t let her stay upset for long. "It’s okay, I’ll prescribe something you can take. You focus on nourishing and adjusting your body for a bit, then go find a personal trainer. Just don’t go too hard on yourself with too much exercise or overly intense movements."

"Mwah, I love you so much." Xia Hui instantly became much happier. "You’re my Aladdin’s Lamp, my almighty god!"

"No no no!" Ning Youguang refused three times in a row. "I’m nothing. I’m just an ordinary person."

"Okay, ordinary person." Xia Hui nodded very obediently. "Next question for you: how do I turn your cousin’s husband into my MVP teammate?"

"Didn’t you just say my cousin’s husband doesn’t have as good a temper or personality as Chenchen, and that he can’t be a good ’male nanny’?" Ning Youguang mocked Xia Hui’s backtracking.

"I was just venting to you just now." Xia Hui muttered. "You have no idea how close to falling apart I’ve been these past few days. The baby’s fever keeps coming back, he throws up milk all the time, he’s miserable and groaning all day long. You don’t know how hard it is on a mother’s heart, sitting by him like that, how awful I feel."

"You’ve worked hard, great mom." Ning Youguang knew her cousin still hadn’t finished venting.

"Last night, after I soothed him for ages, he finally fell asleep and then woke up crying again. I had no choice but to carry him and walk around in circles, then coax him to finish his milk. After a whole round of fussing he finally slept. I was really at my wits’ end before I suddenly remembered I hadn’t even showered yet." Going back to the current reality, Xia Hui’s good mood didn’t even last three minutes. "But at that time, your ’teammate’ in my house had already entered sweet dreamland. Do you know how I felt right then?"

"I was seriously about to explode! I just wanted to shake him awake and ask him, how can you possibly sleep right now? The problem is, I couldn’t wake him, because it was already three-thirty in the morning, and he had to get up early for a company meeting the next day."

"You’ve grown up." Ning Youguang praised her. "And then?"

"Then I just gritted my teeth in anger, grabbed my pillow, and went to sleep in the guest room next door." Xia Hui was like a pufferfish that suddenly deflated; her whole body looked down and helpless. "We’ve been sleeping separately a lot lately."

"How does it feel to sleep separately?" Ning Youguang asked with concern.

"It’s okay." Xia Hui froze for a second, then said, "Anyway, we both feel like we’re sleeping pretty well. Otherwise I have to get up to feed at night all the time, and it’s really easy to wake him up."

"If you’re sleeping well, that’s good."

"But I feel a bit uneasy."

"Why uneasy?"

"How can a married couple sleep in separate beds?" In Xia Hui’s mind, sleeping in separate beds meant a bad marriage. So even though she and her husband both felt they were sleeping better after separating, deep down she still didn’t want it to be this way.

But in reality, if they didn’t sleep separately, they would both be even more exhausted.

"Why can’t a married couple sleep in separate beds?" Ning Youguang felt her cousin had way too many limiting beliefs. "Do you know that lots of couples in this world sleep separately and still have a great relationship?"

"I know." Xia Hui said. "I’ve seen some bloggers say they sleep separately from their husbands and their relationship is still great. But I can’t. I get scared."

Ning Youguang said, "You don’t believe that even if you and my cousin’s husband sleep separately, you can still be happy?"

"It’s not exactly that." Xia Hui kept scratching her head. "Our relationship is actually pretty good. Your cousin’s husband is just busy with work at the company, but he’s still really good to me. It’s my own problem. I just can’t stop overthinking."

Ning Youguang asked, "Have you talked to my cousin’s husband about your anxiety?"

"How could I talk to him about this stuff?" Xia Hui said in surprise. "These issues weren’t caused by him."

Ning Youguang let out a deep sigh. "Silly, you already know you’re very anxious. Right now is when you most need help. If you don’t talk to him, who else can you talk to?"

"You." Xia Hui blurted out.

"Right." Ning Youguang pressed a hand to her forehead. "You can talk to me. The thing is, no matter how many ways I have to help you with your psychological issues, I cannot replace the role my cousin’s husband plays in your life. I can give you tools, and I can give you comfort and love, but I cannot give you the love and strength that you’re supposed to get from your husband, understand?"

"It’s not wrong to see a psychologist for psychological problems, right?" Xia Hui asked cautiously.

"Nothing wrong with that." Ning Youguang patted her own head, feeling a bit of a headache. "But as a mom and a wife, whenever you run into problems, besides thinking about seeing a psychologist, there’s something else really important: you should go to your husband, the father of your child. Got it? When you’re emotional, when you run into problems you can’t solve on your own, you need to go to your husband first, tell him you’re under pressure, that you’re having big feelings, that you need his help, okay?"

Xia Hui was silent.

Ning Youguang went on, "Sharing your emotions with your husband can help you build a deeper, more intimate relationship with him. Our motivation to do anything comes from how much attention a person pays to something. If you want my cousin’s husband’s help, you first need to consciously let him participate in what’s going on with you. How do you get him involved? By continuously

also caring about others. To truly care about someone, we have to understand what they like and don’t like, and understand their feelings and thoughts.

Admit the role emotions play, face them, come into contact with them; this will help us work better and build smoother interpersonal relationships.

What makes us suffer psychologically isn’t the event itself, but our thoughts about the event and the "stories" we weave around it.

First, give yourself and the other person a bit more space to think. Before you find a solution, learn to step back. Don’t stay trapped in all kinds of obsessive guesses about hurt and conflict, locked in a fight to the death.

Yes, healing takes time.